Christmas Music :)

We LIKE Christmas music… allot. Out of all of the Christmas music we have, this is one of my all time favorites. We have the Vince Guaraldi Trio’s “A Charlie Brown Christmas” album, and the whole album is wonderful. This track however, is my favorite. https://youtu.be/YvI_FNrczzQ

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How to meet Nudists/Naturists from the Internet

Sure it’s easy to meet other Nudists and Naturists when one is at a nudist resort, beach, or venue. The rest of the time though, it can be difficult. For years, I have been posting my own basic version of the Moscow Rules, adapted for Nudists and Naturists to point out a few things to consider if one wishes to meet an online contact in real life.

Moscow Rules for Nudists and Naturists

Wow, you’ve finally “met” someone online who is also a Nudist or Naturist. They live within a reasonable distance and you’d like to meet each other in real life. Nudists and Naturists are social folks, and we like gathering with others. Unfortunately, there are bad people out there, and some of them try to pass themselves off as Nudists and Naturists. Here are some suggestions because… it’s real life now!

ONLINE:

1. WHO DISCOVERED WHOM AND HOW?
Usually, this is a pretty easy question to answer as typically it will be one person on a Nudist or Naturist site reaching out to another person on that same site. Still, it’s a good idea to know what motivated the initial contact. Was it because you’re both in the same area? Have shared interests? If a contact comes out of left field, pay better attention.

2. HOW LONG HAVE YOU KNOWN THIS PERSON ONLINE?
Time spent on the computer is not time spent in person. There are an incredible number of things we consciously and subconsciously notice when we interact with people face to face that are not evident when exchanging emails, chatting online, and even chatting via webcam. The longer we interact with someone online, the better- as this provides more opportunity for details to emerge about the person in question. Other than they are a Nudist or Naturist and live in the same general area, what do you REALLY know about them? Do any Nudists/Naturists that you know in real life know this person?

3. WHAT KIND OF QUESTIONS HAS THIS PERSON ASKED YOU?
Well obviously the subject of Nudism and Naturism, and general topics such as living in the same area have been talked about, but what else has this person inquired about? Were there any requests for information that made you feel even a little uneasy? Everyone has their own “comfort” level, their own boundaries; but if anything makes you feel uncomfortable- pay attention. They don’t need to know your address, where you work, where your spouse works, anything other than the most basic information about your family. All of that stuff comes later on, once you have decided to continue contact/friendship and have established trust.

4. HOW HAS THIS PERSON BEHAVED?
Generally, have they stayed in your comfort zone or have they veered off into topics you are not comfortable with? Has this person kept their word when promising to get back in touch, meet online to chat at a certain time, replied to messages/emails/etc.? These are all indicators of a persons general character.

REAL LIFE:

1. MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE WHERE OTHER PEOPLE WILL BE PRESENT.
Should go without saying, but yes- make it a public place where other people are likely to be present.

NEVER MEET FOR THE FIRST TIME AT A PRIVATE PLACE SUCH AS A RESIDENCE OR PLACE OF EMPLOYMENT.

Casual restaurants, coffee shops, and the like will usually have a good mix of people throughout the day. They also afford you the opportunity to sit and enjoy refreshments while also enjoying the “safety of the herd”. Make sure the one you agree upon is in a good part of town, and preferably a busy location. Make sure it is a location and part of town that you are familiar with. Parks, green spaces, trails, etc. are a bad idea.

2. USE A MESSENGER PROGRAM TO COMMUNICATE INSTEAD OF EXCHANGING PHONE NUMBERS.
There might be a need to communicate with each other after leaving your homes but before arriving at the agreed upon location. Someone may have to cancel or could be running late. However, using a messenger program such as kik on your phone allows you to send and receive instant communication without revealing your phone number. Face it, if the person you meet ends up being unacceptable, do you really want them to have your phone number? You can always exchange phone numbers after you have gotten to know this person and have decided that you trust them.

3. TAKE SOMEONE WITH YOU IF POSSIBLE!
Know another Nudist or Naturist who would be willing to go along? It would be a good idea. Don’t spring this upon the other person either, as it will raise alarms with them. Make sure they are comfortable with it too. If they should show up accompanied by another person that you were not forewarned about, especially if you are alone, it is time to leave. Make up a reason and go. You can follow up later safely through digital communication.

4. MAKE SURE OTHERS KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING, WHERE YOU WILL BE, AND WHAT TIME YOU SHOULD RETURN.
If you cannot have someone accompany you, make sure your loved ones and/or friends know that you are going to meet someone, who you are going to meet, where you are going to meet them, and by what time you will return. Allow yourself some time for breaking the ice, chit-chat, and getting to know the other person, but have a definite time when the meet will end. When that time arrives, leave. If they propose a last minute change in venue, call the meet off.

5. ARRIVE EARLY.
Try to be the first one there. This allows you to choose your seating and observe the other person’s arrival. Did they come alone? How are they acting? Are they checking out your vehicle or looking at the reg plate?

6. PAY ATTENTION AND OBSERVE.
Okay, now everyone is there and it’s time to talk. It’s normal to be cautious or even a bit nervous, but does this person appear to be more nervous than the situation would call for? Be sure at some point to let the other person talk without interrupting and see where they steer the conversation. This is your first meeting with this person, thus it is still NOT the time to divulge too much personal information. Keep that in mind.

7. TIME TO GO.
Hopefully, your meeting went well and everything (and everyone) turned out to be on the up and up. If so, congratulations. When you leave, casually observe the other person in your vehicle mirrors. Again, are they noting your license plate number? Did someone else join them? Are they leaving at the same time? If they are also leaving, did they turn the same direction you turned? Pay attention. Do not casually explain anything away as coincidence.

Think any of this is overkill? Remember… you are meeting a STRANGER FROM THE INTERNET. You should see the real modern version of the Moscow Rules!

An “issue” facing Parents of Naturist Families…

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Life has been busy here and I have not had as much time as I would like for online activity. I have been meaning to post this for a while now…

On a religiously oriented nudist forum that I used to participate in, someone asked what we thought “THE” issue facing parents and children practicing naturism is. This was what I posted in response:

My immediate response AND the conclusion I arrived at after much consideration are the same:

Misinterpretation/misunderstanding by outsiders.

Those of us who are practitioners and promoters of genuine nudism and naturism  are all too familiar with the knee-jerk reaction of many who see nudism/naturism as a sexually based lifestyle. Here is a partial list of what I have heard/read the misinformed believe about nudism/naturism:

Nudists/Naturists are exhibitionists. They get their kicks from showing their naked bodies to other people.

Nudists/Naturists are voyeurs. They get their kicks from seeing other people naked.

Nudists/Naturists are swingers/partner swappers. They have sex with each other’s spouses and have orgies.

Nudist/Naturist gatherings are sexually charged events.

This is partially OUR fault! I will get into that a little more later on.

Combine the above misconceptions with the insanity of modern society, and it creates a problem. Pause for a moment and consider a few things…

The following were common in American life (and worldwide) but in the last few decades have disappeared or have become very rare:

Casual nudity as dictated by circumstance- An example would be working or playing outside and removing one’s clothes on the back patio to avoid spreading dirt throughout the home. Sometimes we would strip completely and hose off before even going inside the house to bathe. I’ve worked in places where upon finishing work for the day, it was common to change out of dirty clothes, shower (at work) and change into clean clothes.

Skinny dipping- Whether spontaneous such as in lakes, creeks, ponds, or pools, or organized such as in schools or the YMCA, skinny dipping was a generally accepted activity. As far as I remember, it was sometimes segregated by gender. However, even in our public schools it was common for males to swim nude, even in mixed gender classes. For some odd reason, females were expected to wear bathing suits. Back in the day, it was still common for groups like the Boy Scouts to let the kids skinny dip, and there were camps that did likewise.

Casual nudity in the home- just what it says. Bathing/showering with the bathroom door open, drying off and letting one’s body breath and de-humidify, walking back to the bedroom nude, etc. Granted, years ago most houses only had one bathroom and thus occasionally it was necessary for more than one person to be in that room at the same time. Modern houses tend to have more than one room with a toilet and sink. Years ago, houses were designed and built to take maximum advantage of breezes- lots of windows and good airflow ability through the house because there was no such thing as AC or it was something that only rich people had. That also led to families being less clothed in the home during the warmer seasons. Now? We have eliminated designs with lots of windows, and refrigerate our homes to the point where if one is nude or wearing very light clothing, one feels uncomfortably cold.

Casual child nudity- They’re natural born nudists, and up until recently, nobody had a problem with a naked kid playing in a wading pool, sprinkler, sandbox, etc. The naked baby/toddler pictures were a common thing.

There are more examples but y’all get the idea.

Here is part of what I believe happened…

Kids need protection. I agree whole-heartedly. However, as we allowed more and more so called “experts” to dictate to us, we failed to notice the slow encroachment of “their” values over the rights of the family. For example, spanking is now not tolerated in some areas. CPS will snatch your kids away if they learn that you have used corporal punishment. This encroachment keeps creeping along. As each “new” thing is vilified and thus no longer acceptable to society in the name of protecting children, they pick something else to focus on.

I used to ride my bike fairly far away from home when I was 9. Stayed gone all day, usually without any direct adult supervision. Just my friends and I playing and exploring. Now? It is actually ILLEGAL in many places to let your children out of your direct sight. Society has subscribed to hysteria. My neighbor goes through figurative hell because it is illegal to leave his two 13 year old sons home alone for more than a dictated amount of time. Both the parents work, so they are constantly shuttling their sons to various places to be “watched”. When I was 7 or 8, I had my own key to the house and let myself in when I got home from school! I was alone, and would feed myself, watch tv, or play until my biological mother returned home hours later.

Society is ever in search of something else that we need to be protected from, particularly children. As we “protect” ourselves and our children from anything and everything we can think of, we also protect them from being able to be independent adults. We prevent them from being able to lose a game, take an insult, stand up for themselves, think critically, etc.

We’ve turned a generation into weaklings in need of protection from opinions that are counter to their own.

When you combine our knee-jerk reaction to protecting kids from anything we feel might alarm them or cause discomfort (much less actually be harmful to them) with society’s sexualized view of nudism the result is obvious. Anyone who goes nude in front of a minor or allows a minor to be nude must be a sexual predator. There can be no other acceptable explanation. Thus, I think that is the primary issue facing parents and children practicing naturism. The uninformed making the assumption of sexual motive in order to “protect”. In their eyes, the truth is what they say it is. The actual truth gets shunted aside. Many nudist parents live in increasing fear that the “wrong” person will find out about their familial nudism and start the life destroying process of child protective services, law enforcement, courts, etc. all because we have been taught we must assume the worst case scenario. Society, especially in many schools, teaches children that secrets are bad and they must tell the teacher everything the teacher wants to know. Parents are faced with the Catch-22 of trying to teach their children that some secrets are good and how to tell the difference, how to keep family business private (such as nudism), etc. In some cases, all it takes is one hateful person making an unsubstantiated claim to destroy lives, families, and careers. And that’s the case even when it is finally proven the claim was wrong.

Now, to continue why do I think this is OUR fault? In answer, I will simply copy part of an article I wrote regarding so called “sex positive” blogs and representations of nudism that promote sex, and how they are partially responsible for the horrible opinion many textiles hold in regards to nudism and family nudism.

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God created us nude. It was not designed to cause arousal. In fact, we were nude long before there was a need to have sex for procreation. Unless we need protection from the environment, we are actually meant to be nude. Clothing interferes with some of the human body’s systems and actually can be detrimental to health- physical, mental, and even spiritual. Nudity was, and should still be, commonplace. There is simply nothing inherently sexual about it.

I honestly believe that the false modesty of clothing is the greatest cause of people viewing simple nudity as arousing. When genitals are only exposed FOR sex, then they come to automatically represent sex WHENEVER they are in view. If genuine nudism was more common, I believe the porn industry would fail or come close to it!

Now… about those “sex-positive” nudist blogs-

The fact of the matter is nudism did not come from sex.

Nudism and sex are NOT inherently related to each other.

Yes, sex is natural. However it has no place in nudism. There are many things that are natural that have no place in nudism.

“Sex-positive” tends to be code for porn.

When I run across the “sex-positive” blogs, they always include eroticism/pornography and use the same argument to justify it; i.e.- sex (or erections) = natural and thus should be celebrated and included. Uh… No.

They use this “natural” argument as a means of trying to bring some legitimacy to their position. They try to pass blatantly sexual behavior off as simple nudism. When they are called out on this, they defend their position by claiming anyone who doesn’t like to include sex in nudism is denying how natural it is. This allows them to call themselves “nudists” and label their behavior as “nudism” instead of calling it what it really is – pornography, swinging, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc.

So what’s the problem?

They are falsely equating nudism with sex. They are linking them together and reinforcing that link.

When a solitary nudist or a textile interested in nudism see’s that, he or she may get the impression that a majority of nudists think that way. This may cause them to never reach out to other nudists, never visit a resort, and even feel ashamed of their own nudity even though it is not arousing for them.

When a textile see’s these “sex-positive” blogs, it just reinforces their assumption that nudists are perverts and nudism is all about sex, swinging, orgies, partner swapping, etc.

THAT in turn makes it more difficult for real nudism to be accepted. It also lends itself to another problem, and that is the exclusion of family. When one presents nudism as being a sexual lifestyle, one is also creating an atmosphere that requires precluding nudist families. As a result, more and more people see nudity of any kind as automatically sexual.

This in turn shapes laws, corporate policies, etc. Just look at tumblr- more porn than one could ever view in a single lifetime and those blogs remain. But when genuine nudists try to promote family friendly non sexual nudism, they get banned. Why? Because tumblr either sees nudism as an “adults only” sexual lifestyle or they don’t want the hassle of constantly having to defend non-pornographic nude images. And it’s not just tumblr. Most websites that allow any kind of nude images have similar policies.

Why did this happen? Because we, the real nudists of the world, have allowed the perverts to sully the image of nudism with sex and pornography. Because we sat silently by while they taught the world that nudity is all about sex, not about simply being normal and natural. We let them define nudism because we didn’t want to get into a debate. We didn’t want to get involved. We figured to let them have their perverted part of the internet and simply exclude them from our genuine nudism and nudist sites. That has backfired in the worst way.

How?

The same way the gross misbehavior of some single male nudists backfired on all single male nudists. Nudism is being viewed more and more frequently as a sexually based lifestyle. Thus, this erroneous stereotype is being applied more and more often to ALL nudists. Nudism is being linked to sex, and the more “sex-positive” junk that is out there to be seen, the stronger that link becomes. This results in more and more restrictions upon nudism.

These “sex-positive” folks are creating a bad image, a stereotype that is being applied to all of us.

We are being punished for the actions of others who falsely claim their sexual behavior is representative of nudism. We are allowing this to happen.

Step up.

Assert the principals of genuine nudism.

Engage in being an active defender of genuine nudism… or sit back and watch it disappear. Sit back and allow you and your nudist family, friends, etc. be labeled as perverts when in reality you are far from that.

Don’t be an entitled lazy nudist and expect everyone else to do it for you. Step up and help… many hands make light work!

erections

IMG_4800-logoSo… Ummm… OK, let’s talk about a topic that I get asked about ALLOT by both males and females when the subject of Nudism/Naturism comes up…

erections.

Usually, guys ask “Won’t I get an erection?” or “What if I get an erection?” when talking about trying social nudism for the first time. The girls tend to ask “Are there going to be a bunch of guys running around with erections?” or “What do you guys do about erections?” when they are talking about trying social nudism.

So, before I delve into social nudism etiquette on erections, allow me to list some pertinent facts:

1. Erections are NOT automatically sexual.

Yeah, I know- some of you are thinking “WHAT? How can an erection be anything but sexual?” The “medical” term for an erection is “tumescence”. Males experience tumescence while they are sleeping, and so do females. Nocturnal clitoral tumescence and nocturnal penile tumescence are natural, normal functions of our anatomy. They seem to be part of a sort of “routine maintenance cycle”. Men and women also experience tumescence at various times while awake for reasons completely unrelated to sex, arousal, eroticism, etc. Sometimes, there is no discernible reason at all. I myself get them when I am nervous – totally non-sexual. Male fetuses experience erections while in the womb. Some male infants are born with an erection. Those of us who grew up nudist or have been to family nudist resorts and beaches know that little boys get them and don’t even realize it. I’m pretty sure those are non-sexual!

2. Erections do not automatically indicate that their owner is aroused.

Same reasons as number 1. Most guys wake up with an erection. We usually have to urinate too. Are those two facts related? Some doctors and researchers think so, others disagree. Most of us have also experienced erections that we cannot explain. We’re not aroused, we’re not thinking of anything arousing, heck we get them when we’re in situations where we really, really, REALLY don’t want to get one. Sudden onset of stress, fight or flight, drowsiness, and many other factors can produce one. They just happen. It’s different for each of us.

3. Yep- sometimes an erection is sexual. – Self-explanatory.

So, having pointed out the above information, let’s address erections in a nudist setting. Let’s start with the questions I usually hear and follow that up with generally accepted nudist etiquette regarding them when they do happen.

Guys: “Won’t I get an erection?” – Probably not. Nudist/Naturist environments are actually very non-sexual. They’re just not arousing. Years ago, there was a member of Nudistworld who was about 25, an at home nudist, and very interested in joining us for social nudism, but he was extraordinarily worried that he was going to get an erection. He said he usually didn’t get them when he was nude at home, but for some reason was almost terrified it would happen in a social setting and thus he would be embarrassed, thought of poorly, etc. Short version of the story- he didn’t get one. When I pointed out to him that he had been nude in a social nudist setting for a few hours and had NOT gotten one, he laughed and said he couldn’t understand why he was so worried about it. Real nudist functions simply aren’t arousing.

Girls: “Are there going to be a bunch of guys running around with erections?” – Again, probably not. Granted, at resorts with campgrounds you may see this in the morning, as the tent crowd wakes up and heads to the restroom, but etiquette dictates we hold our towels in such a way as to block the view of our groin. In all the years I’ve been a nudist, I have rarely seen an adult with an erection who wasn’t either trying to get to the restroom right after waking up in the morning or had fallen asleep near the pool or some other comfortable spot. Yep- that’s how relaxing nudist environments are- some of us will fall asleep at naptime!

GENERALLY ACCEPTED ETIQUETTE REGARDING TUMESCENCE –

COVER/CONCEAL IT!

What? We’re Naturists, right? So we don’t have a problem with nudity and natural functions of the human body, right?

Yes and No.

A mother breastfeeding her child is wholesome, natural, and I’ve not seen anyone object to it at a nudist resort.

However, elimination of bodily waste is healthy and natural but you don’t do that in public!

Having pointed out that erections are not automatically sexual, it should be understood and accepted that we don’t put them on display either! Think of it as a routine but expected courtesy such as always sitting on your towel. If for some reason you actually do get one, simply cover it with your towel, turn over and lay on your stomach, etc. Don’t call attention to it. Even if your older than Moses and haven’t had one in decades- don’t leap up with a cry of “It Lives!!!” Simply conceal it until it subsides. And yes… a quick dip in a cold or cool swimming pool works for many of us.

See a guy that has fallen asleep and is getting one? Politely wake him and ask him to cover his groin.

See someone “displaying” their erection or refuses to cover it? Time to get resort staff involved or in the case of a public nude beach- the police or park ranger.

Also keep in mind that the penis is not static, it’s dynamic. Even when flaccid, a male’s penis will “change” length throughout the day. Heat and cold, personal level of stress, relaxation, etc. can all effect “how it hangs”, but erections are pretty obvious.

I hope this helps address these concerns for those of you who have yet to try social nudism.

My Issue with “Sex Positive” Nudism

WARNING: This is an OPINION. Opinions are like belly buttons- everybody has at least one 😉

First, some background…

I have been a nudist for quite literally DECADES. In fact, I have been a nudist for my whole life so far. No, this doesn’t mean I am the “authority” on nudism. It does however mean I have allot of experience with the lifestyle in general.

There are as many types of nudism out there as there are nudists. Every nudist (and textile for that matter) views nudism through the lens of their own life experiences. Thus, what is nudist and what is pornographic is judged differently by many.

When I started being a nudist, I was a toddler. Yep- a toddler. Once the toilet training was done, the diapers came off and I was allowed to run around nude whenever it was warm enough and the situation was “right”; i.e.- we were at home, etc. My biological parents were NOT actually nudists. They simply believed (and this was at a time when) letting a little kid run around nude was no big deal. Trouble was, I rebelled when it came time to start wearing clothes. Sure, they slept nude, and would walk to and from the bathroom nude, but that was it.

I had seen my parents nude. No big deal. I had bathed and showered with my dad like most little kids of that era. No big deal. I never saw them acting in an erotic or sexual manner.

As time went by, I discovered that I could go skinny dipping in the creek behind where we lived. I ran across some other kids that I went to school with while they were skinny dipping back there. Turns out some of them came from nudist families. Thus, I started hanging out with them at their homes. And believe it or not, I didn’t witness any erotic or sexual behavior there either. I liked hanging out with them not because I got to see anyone nude, but because I got to be nude with other nude people, a natural state that even at a young age I recognized as inherently good and normal.

As I got a little older, around 8 or 9 years old, those families would include me in family activities, parties, and on trips to the beach. The only thing was we didn’t tell my parents that we were going to Sandy Hook instead of Seaside Heights. All the times we went somewhere, I never saw anyone acting sexual.

There was a decency involved that comes from character, not clothing.

While we kids were tearing around in the pool, the surf, the playgrounds, etc., the adults were usually keeping a close eye on us while they were sun tanning, grilling, chatting, and sometimes drinking at a social level. I don’t recall seeing anything at all questionable. Nobody sporting an erection, no obvious displays, spread legs, etc.

By now, my biological dad was out of the picture and my biological mom had decided I needed privacy, so she went to great pains to NOT see me nude. Thus, the fact that my butt was a little more tan than it should have been didn’t get noticed. If it did, she never said anything. I still played outside most of the time in short pants so I still had the typical tan line of a textile anyway.

Through these experiences I grew to understand that being nude is our most natural state. That it is not sexual in nature at all. By being surrounded with nude people of all ages, I saw that it is simply “us”, the way we are designed to be when we don’t require protection from the environment (heat, cold, abrasion, etc.). I learned that this is how we have lived for millennia.

Sure, we cover up when we need to protect our bodies, but otherwise we tended to disrobe in day to day life. Families saw each other nude constantly. People worked nude out in the fields, on fishing boats, around the cottage, in all manner of work where they didn’t need protective gear (i.e.- clothing). Sex simply wasn’t involved. Seeing another person nude wasn’t a prelude to arousal or sexual activity. It was actually a mundane, commonplace thing.

As a result, nudism and sex were never inherently related.

Fast forward to my teens. I was still skinny dipping and sunbathing with friends (albeit from a different school) and again, it was just us being natural. For us, it wasn’t automatically a sexual thing. Sure, we were usually nude when engaging in sex, but simply being nude wasn’t arousing or asking for it.

Fast forward again to my 20’s. I was a member of aanr (not anymore though!) and was disappointed at the number of resorts that barred me from visiting simply because I was a single male. They lumped me into a category that they believed was full of guys who were into nudism as a means of sexual shopping and satisfaction. I wasn’t and still am not one of them.

Why were single guys being labeled and treated this way? Because of the actions of a few of them! Because some guys saw nudism as a sexually based lifestyle and wormed their way into nudist resorts and then behaved in an unacceptably sexual manner, the majority of single guys were punished. Resorts typically either excluded them completely or instituted a limit on the number of single males that could attend at any given time. Those misbehaving single guys created a bad image, a stereotype that was applied to all. This meant that genuine nudists who happened to be male and single were being punished for the gross misbehavior of others. They were denied the opportunity to engage in social nudism as a preventative safety measure.

God created us nude. It was not designed to cause arousal. In fact, we were nude long before there was a need to have sex for procreation. Unless we need protection from the environment, we are actually meant to be nude. Clothing interferes with some of the human body’s systems and actually can be detrimental to health- physical, mental, and even spiritual. Nudity was, and should still be, commonplace. There is simply nothing inherently sexual about it.

I honestly believe that the false modesty of clothing is the greatest cause of people viewing simple nudity as arousing. When genitals are only exposed FOR sex, then they come to automatically represent sex WHENEVER they are in view. If genuine nudism was more common, I believe the porn industry would fail or come close to it!

Now… about those “sex-positive” nudist blogs-

The fact of the matter is nudism did not come from sex.

Nudism and sex are NOT inherently related to each other.

Yes, sex is natural. However it has no place in nudism. There are many things that are natural that have no place in nudism.

“Sex-positive” tends to be code for porn.

When I run across the “sex-positive” blogs, they always include eroticism/pornography and use the same argument to justify it; i.e.- sex (or erections) = natural and thus should be celebrated and included. Uh… No.

They use this “natural” argument as a means of trying to bring some legitimacy to their position. They try to pass blatantly sexual behavior off as simple nudism. When they are called out on this, they defend their position by claiming anyone who doesn’t like to include sex in nudism is denying how natural it is. This allows them to call themselves “nudists” and label their behavior as “nudism” instead of calling it what it really is – pornography, swinging, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc.

So what’s the problem?

They are falsely equating nudism with sex. They are linking them together and reinforcing that link.

When a solitary nudist or a textile interested in nudism see’s that, he or she may get the impression that a majority of nudists think that way. This may cause them to never reach out to other nudists, never visit a resort, and even feel ashamed of their own nudity even though it is not arousing for them.

When a textile see’s these “sex-positive” blogs, it just reinforces their assumption that nudists are perverts and nudism is all about sex, swinging, orgies, partner swapping, etc.

THAT in turn makes it more difficult for real nudism to be accepted. It also lends itself to another problem, and that is the exclusion of family. When one presents nudism as being a sexual lifestyle, one is also creating an atmosphere that requires precluding nudist families. As a result, more and more people see nudity of any kind as automatically sexual.

This in turn shapes laws, corporate policies, etc. Just look at tumblr- more porn than one could ever view in a single lifetime and those blogs remain. But when genuine nudists try to promote family friendly non sexual nudism, they get banned. Why? Because tumblr either sees nudism as an “adults only” sexual lifestyle or they don’t want the hassle of constantly having to defend non-pornographic nude images. And it’s not just tumblr. Most websites that allow any kind of nude images have similar policies.

Why did this happen? Because we, the real nudists of the world, have allowed the perverts to sully the image of nudism with sex and pornography. Because we sat silently by while they taught the world that nudity is all about sex, not about simply being normal and natural. We let them define nudism because we didn’t want to get into a debate. We didn’t want to get involved. We figured to let them have their perverted part of the internet and simply exclude them from our genuine nudism and nudist sites. That has backfired in the worst way.

How?

The same way the gross misbehavior of some single male nudists backfired on all single male nudists. Nudism is being viewed more and more frequently as a sexually based lifestyle. Thus, this erroneous stereotype is being applied more and more often to ALL nudists. Nudism is being linked to sex, and the more “sex-positive” junk that is out there to be seen, the stronger that link becomes. This results in more and more restrictions upon nudism.

These “sex-positive” folks are creating a bad image, a stereotype that is being applied to all of us.

We are being punished for the actions of others who falsely claim their sexual behavior is representative of nudism. We are allowing this to happen.

Step up.

Assert the principals of genuine nudism.

Engage in being an active defender of genuine nudism… or sit back and watch it disappear. Sit back and allow you and your nudist family, friends, etc. be labeled as perverts when in reality you are far from that.

Don’t be an entitled lazy nudist and expect everyone else to do it for you. Step up and help… many hands make light work!

Out in the Boondocks!

We finally got out of the suburbs and into the country! We now have a place with dense hardwood forest, a 2 acre pond, and the privacy to be nude on most of our land! Ever since we bought the place, I have been able to relax naturally back at the pond on Easter Sunday. We’ve been here for 3 Easters and I think I’ve started a tradition!